A Personal Journey of Romantic Relationships During Awakening (6 Life Changing Revelations)

As we dance through our spiritual unfoldment process, we gradually awaken from a dream world and our perspective of just about everything radically changes; romantic relationships are certainly no exception and a prominent theme for many!

This post is by no means a fixed guide outlining a single trajectory that all of us will follow on our spiritual journeys. Our earthly experience with romantic relationships is a unique expression of what our soul’s mission is during this lifetime and there truly is no right or wrong. This post is written to inspire any that may resonate with my personal revelations.

On my path, surrendering to the flow of my intuition lead me through a series of significant revelations and personal truths, ultimately modifying my approach to relationships. Bringing a shifted awareness into this subject can be a bumpy ride, yet each spec of clarity paves the way for more conscious experiences.

When integrating our awakening into the beauty and magic of romantic love, the love we feel becomes increasingly transcendental by nature, enabling us to feel more inner peace, joy and freedom.

Happiness Is Not Found In Another

My preconceived idea of relationships came tumbling down when I realised that no man could ever make me happy.

We are lead to believe that our ‘happily ever after’ is found within the charming arms of another, however enchanting tails of lasting happiness found outside of one’s self can only lead to disappointment or heartbreak.

We’ve all experienced momentary bliss found from external experiences whether it’s a new item of clothing, car, job or relationship, the initial ‘high’ will surely fade. The physical realm around us is ever-changing and impermanent, therefore seeking happiness within it will only mirror this.

On my journey, once I realised that I was somewhat dependent on a man to make me happy, I took a step back from romantic relationships and began to cultivate further happiness from within.

I AM Whole

We are often encouraged through social conditioning to adopt a belief that we must search for ‘another half’ to complete us. Though this may work for some, I personally do not resonate with this concept.

When two ‘halves’ come together, often both individuals may feel the need to control their one singular ‘whole’, creating power struggles within relationships. As a result, one partner may surrender in the direction of their other ‘halves’ path in life only to resent them in years to come. Additionally, finding completion in another may lead to co-dependency and a fear of leaving a relationship that has long exceeded its expiration date.

Upon waking to this new perspective, I eagerly set out to become ‘whole’ in myself and it wasn’t until a few years later that I realised I was always ‘whole’ to begin with. I must simply adopt the understanding that a relationship is an enhancement to me rather than a completion. In doing so, I manage to stay grounded in romantic affairs, living from my truth and not becoming a chameleon, shifting and changing only to lose myself in the relationship.

Time Spent Alone and falling In Love With Myself 

From the age of 15, I found myself in a constant stream of long-term romantic relationships. During this time I was distracted from really understanding myself through the responsibility of considering my partner and living a busy life.

Upon an extraordinary spiritual awakening and through experiencing various revelations on the topic of romantic encounters, I realised how social conditioning lead me to believe that I must always be wrapped up in a relationship. Once letting this belief go I felt strongly called to focus entirely on myself through being single.

I suddenly felt free to deeply explore my burning passions and cherished values in life. Through setting time alone to let my awakening sink in, I was also able to peel back many of the layers that I had imposed upon myself moving ever closer to my core and gradually answering the fundamental question ‘who am I?’.

Once finding my direction and falling in love with life itself, I simultaneously found a pure sort of joy from time spent alone. It seems that blindly catapulting myself into the unknown territory of singlehood enabled me to cultivate a love for myself and I came to realise that I didn’t need a romantic partner to love me or make me feel worthy.

For further information regarding my exploration into ‘who am I?’, check out the following article; Who Am I? Integrating I AM Presence.

We often repeat patterns in relationships, attracting similar situations or partners with the same characteristics time and time again. This universe is governed by the law of attraction and our unique vibrational frequency will continue to attract unto us the same experiences.

Noticing a pattern can be an enlightening realisation and shining the light of awareness onto it may be enough to prevent repeating it. However, we may feel intuitively guided to delve into our past traumas, heal our wounds, learn our lessons and ultimately make a change.

Relationships Come and Go 

I once heard relationships described as rafts carrying us from one side of the lake to the other. They come to serve us at the time, we float towards our destination and when it has sufficiently served its purpose, we let it go. In my case, this has certainly been true.

I have found each romantic relationship to be a great catalyst for growth. It seems that I meet partners through some sort of incomprehensible divine orchestration. We then intertwine our lives, delivering and receiving the appropriate information, lessons and experiences. Once such unfoldment has taken place, the relationship inevitably loses its spirit, there is an inner knowing that a celestial contract has been fulfilled and we are no longer a vibration match.

It seems that on the spiritual path (or any voyage of personal growth) we change at a rapid pace and the person we were last year is often a different version to the one we see today. This can cause much commotion in an otherwise perfectly suited relationship, especially if our partner is not growing and evolving with us. It can be challenging and painful when we realise that we no longer resonate with a relationship because we are simply not the person that we were when we entered it.

I spent much of my adolescence and early adulthood years pining for that ‘perfect’ lover, secretly hoping to run into the love of my life at any moment.

Up until a few years ago (after coming to the previous revelations), I suddenly noticed that my yearning and searching had vanished. It seemed that breaking down societal conditioning and seeking happiness from within, in conjunction with falling in love with myself and my own company, had enabled me to cultivate a less resistant and more peaceful approach of trust and surrender. Having predominantly relinquished control, I now sit back in my position as the observer of my romantic encounters, allowing the process of divine timing to unravel perfectly before my eyes.

Final Words

My journey with romantic relationships is by no means over and no doubt I will uncover many revelations to come. I do believe that to fall passionately in love with another earthly soul is a precious gift within this dimension of existence. Such connections give birth to opportunities for channelling through the immensity and sheer beauty of our true nature beyond this physical world.

If you enjoyed this article you may be interested in the following post; Love In The Fifth Dimension; Emotional Love VS Soul Love

With Gratitude,